Fortunately, a friend posted something on Facebook that gave me the inspiration for this entry. They simply said that they had been a recipient of a random act of kindness. Someone in a Starbucks drive-thru, a man in the car just ahead of her's, paid for her coffee and bought her a cookie. He then drove off. Purely random, incredible, unsolicited kindness. Sadly, we look at actions such as this as extraordinary. I think that, in itself, shows where we are headed as a society. It cost him little, yet made a huge impact. It needs to happen more frequently.
I used to be concerned, in my younger years, about what people would think if I said or did certain things or acted a certain way. What I mean by that is, many of us (especially of the male gender) have been conditioned to tell our spouses and our families we love them. It is noticeably rare that you hear two heterosexual males say, "I love you," to a friend. Oh, how we've conditioned ourselves. At this point, I have to interject that I have always been surprised and proud of how my son has handled this. It's never fazed him. When I was younger, I (like many of us, I think) hated my parents being around for fear they would embarrass me in front of my friends. He, however, has never hesitated to tell his mother, father, and friends he loves them, even when he was in school. Of course, he was the starting center on the football team. Me, not so much. No one was going to make fun of him. Still, I have come to realize that what happened Friday could happen to any of us at any time. Do you really want to be the one that left something unsaid to those that matter? As I said, those were in my younger years. I will gladly tell those that matter, especially as they have been in my life for many years, that they matter and I love them. What's that? You say you can't say it to another male friend? Get over yourself - they matter, let them know how much.
Many of you are friends on Facebook. I have to admit, there are many 'stories' and posts on that site that say, "Click if you hate cancer, scroll if you don't." Please, people - we all hate cancer. It's ridiculous. "Click if you support our troops, scroll if they mean nothing to you." "Click if you believe in God, keep scrolling if you don't." I see many of these posts and, while we may or may not 'click', I'm going to challenge you to do something that will, hopefully, go viral and make a difference. Here it is:
My Grown-Up Christmas wish if for people to remember this quote - "Never doubt that a small group of committed citizens can change the world. You know why? It's the only thing that ever has." We seek change, yet know not how to go about it. I'd like to see people share this with as many others as possible, then commit to a single random act of kindness. To do this, daily, would make a huge impact, don't you think? I can do it, my daughter or son can do it, my family can do it...and we will see a little change. Think, though, of the amazing impact we can have if just the people reading this would do it. How much time, and at what cost, did it take for someone to simply buy a cup of coffee for someone else? We can all 'pay it forward' and we owe it to ourselves and, more importantly, our children to make the commitment.
There it is - my Christmas wish. If no more children are lost due to senseless, depraved acts of violence, we win. If teachers can go into a classroom and educate our children without having to shield them from harm, we win. If we all get to the point where we actually show love, caring, kindness, and consideration to others....win win. Big. We don't know how many Christmases we have left in our lives - none of us does - and this might be the solution that we haven't tried yet. What we've been doing isn't working. Don't we owe it to ourselves to at least try? Thank you for taking the time to read and share this. Thank you for doing something nice for someone you don't know. Most importantly, thank you for beings friends. Merry Christmas to all...and God bless us every one.
Until next time................